Last week I finished my spring session classes, meaning I have officially completed my first year of university and am free for the summer!
This year was definitely challenging for me, but also exciting and a learning experience. Here are 5 things that I learned this year, I hope you enjoy reading!
YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR MIND
This is always such a hard concept for me, as I tend to feel guilty whenever I change my mind about something. I went through a lot of change this year, mainly because I didn’t realize just how different university life is from high school.
When applying for university in my second month of grade twelve, I thought I knew exactly what program I wanted to be in, based on which classes I was good at in high school. That all changed when I actually started university and I realized that I was definitely in the wrong program. Fortunately the process to change programs wasn’t too difficult (though it did include re-applying to the university and having to wait for another acceptance), and now I am happily enrolled in the psychology program at my school.
My point is, don’t feel bad about changing things in your life that don’t make you happy.
FRIENDSHIPS ARE NOT ALWAYS FOREVER
This year a close friend of mine decided to end our friendship. I’ll admit, it really hurt and still does hurt. Unfortunately you have to accept that people will make their own decisions, and you have to learn to deal with their actions. In my case, the incident was quite recent, so I’m still working on accepting the apology I never received.
A lot of things change between high school and university, so it’s okay if some friendships change too. There are always new people to meet, especially in your classes, study groups, student clubs, or even just walking around campus!
IT’S OKAY TO MISS A CLASS (OR TWO)
It took me a while to accept this one too, in my senior year of high school I missed only one day of school and that was ‘Senior Skip Day’.
Whether you’re feeling under the weather, you’re exhausted from lack of sleep, or just don’t feel like going to a certain class that day, it is okay to miss a class (as long as it’s not a test day or anything important). I know some people make it seem like missing one class is the end of the world, but I promise it isn’t. My grades did not suffer because I missed one or two classes.
THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER…
The day before my first day of classes, we had an orientation. At this orientation, some of the kids in my group who live on residence were talking about how they’d been having massive parties all week. I was immediately hit with FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), and wondered if I had made a mistake by choosing to continue living with my parents while I attended university. It didn’t take long for me to realize that it was a classic case of “the grass is always greener on the other side”. Living on residence might seem like all fun and games, but I know it also has its downsides. Since that day I’ve heard horror stories about the shared bathrooms / kitchen, and all sorts of crazy happenings. While I know I would have enjoyed living on campus, I also appreciate the money I’m saving by living with my parents, as well as being able to see my friends on a regular basis.
This one might seem obvious to some people, but the transition from high school to university hit me hard. I thought I would be able to get away with the same half-hearted study tactics I used in high school, and boy was I wrong. With all of the assignments, readings, quizzes and tests that I needed to keep up with in 5 different classes, my agenda quickly became my best friend. It’s also a good idea to put reminders in your agenda on days you should begin assignments, so that you don’t forget about them and then flip the page to see you have an assignment due the next day!
What are some things that you have learned from attending college/university? I would love to hear your advice in the comments!